Yep that stings…
The first rejection is the hardest.
I think when you start to come to terms with yourself. Your sexuality and finding self love you also will eventually be hit by rejection. And it hurts. In fact it hurts so bad you start to question if you are making the best decision for yourself and everyone else involved. In our situation and moving forward with a non-monogamous relationship rejection and ridicule is going to happen. What I’ve learned is you have to find the strength inside to own your truth. N your love and not take on others fears and insecurities. Most fears others will have are often deep rooted issues within themselves. Maybe a desire to control their environments, past situations of friends or families or just very uneducated about other types of love. As the “outsiders” I often feel like a desire to educate and extend the olive branch. Rather then perpetuate the issue and make ourselves look more of what their perceptions is of our community we have a chance to show them otherwise.
The idea that love has no boundaries is not for everyone and that’s ok. But what isn’t ok is for others to believe it is wrong based on religious beliefs, social condition, etc. humans have the right to love how ever they see dits them best and it is in our best interested to educate what that looks like. Some will listen others will not. I always thought I’d be in a monogamous relationship. I also thought I’d never have to deal with my internal sexual identity but here we are living something that is very out of the norm. Even if you choose to approach the idea to others in respectful ways, their perception can be skewed. Many may not even be honest and say “sure it’s no problem” only to find out it actually wasn’t okay but for whoever reason, we as humans deny sharing our absolute truth because of fear of what they make cause. But if we ask for truth. If we ask for transparency and you can provide that honestly, however much it hurts or scares you, growth comes from those truths. And with growth comes understanding.